How God Uses my Struggles to Help Others

Posted at 8:00 AM on Apr 17, 2015 by I am THAT Lady: Lauren

Apr 17th, 2015

Have you ever felt like God was putting your through something so you can help others? In this post I talk about my struggles and how they are used to help others.

Seven years ago I sat on my bed in my huge master bedroom, in the house that was making us dead broke. I had laid all of the credit card statements on the bed. I was getting ready to confess to Mark how much debt I had racked up.  As his feet hit every step of the staircase, my heart began to race faster and faster.  My hands started to sweat, and I knew that I couldn’t turn back now. He needed to know the truth and we needed to be open, in order to move forward.

I had been spending without abandon.  I had charged a lot of things and never told him, and I couldn’t take it anymore.  I knew that I had to come clean, but after many failed attempts at doing so this would be the time I would succeed.

He came into the bedroom and I blurted it out – we have $40,000 in debt.  There… I did it….I was now freed of the hidden secret of my spending woes.  I was expecting Mark to yell at me, but he didn’t. He hugged me.  He told me it would be okay and we would get out of it.  He showed me grace that day, and that same grace was what encouraged me to change.


That was the beginning of a long journey of getting out of debt.  Along that journey I had to take a job outside of the home as a server at a fine dining restaurant. I started smoking cigarettes and drinking wine every night, so that I could handle the stress of that job.  I started becoming a person that I was not, because I was so mad at myself.

I wanted desperately to quit my job, dive back into my church, and spend more time with my son.  Not to mention the fact that I was struggling with infertility at the time and so desperately wanted to be pregnant again!

Mark and I sat down and looked at our finances and in a fateful discussion, he told me that I could stay home if we were to cut our grocery bill from $1,000 a month, down to $200 per month.  As a spender, that was laughable!  $200 per month – we spend more than that per week!   I am also an over-achiever, and if you give me a goal to achieve, I will do it.

I started off doing a lot of research. There were two particular bloggers whose blogs helped me get started: MoneySavingMom.com and SouthernSavers.com.  I read everything I could find on their websites, and learned how to coupon and meal plan at my local stores.

I started playing the DrugStore game and getting most of our toiletries on sale. I learned how to meal plan, coupon, and put together healthy meals on a budget.  Two months after I was given that challenge by Mark, I quit my job, and was finally a stay at home mom.


I continued to coupon and feed our family of 3 on $50.00 per week, I did that for about two years.  It was a LOT of work and I spent around 10-15 hours per week strategizing and planning out our meals. I felt like I was contributing to my family, but in a different way. I saw couponing as an hourly wage in giving back to my family.

I stopped spending carelessly and started paying more attention to prices and sale cycles.  My shopping habits were starting to change and now I was getting things for free!  The first time I got asked to do a coupon class was by my local Mom’s group.  Six of us huddled around a coupon insert in my living room talking about how I saved so much on my groceries.  THAT is where I learned that God had given me a gift, and I needed to share it.


Shortly after that small coupon class, I was asked to do another one at a local ministry.  This class was for about 50 people, and again I felt like I was doing something that God had given me an ability to do. I felt like I had something that could help them.

It has now been seven years since that conversation on the bed.  I can still feel the sweat collecting on my palms, and remember the nervous thoughts running through my head.  I remember being afraid that I wouldn’t be able to stop spending money.  Afraid that I would always be a spender.

I am continuously brought back to is a story in the bible book of Esther.   Esther 4:14 says “And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?”  If you look back at the context of that verse, you will notice that she has been under a lot of attack for her heritage.  She also is in a position to help save her people.

When thinking about that verse, I am reminded that what I have gone through and everything I learned – was meant to happen.  I was born at this time in history, and made those mistakes for a reason.  The reason is – I am now blessed to help millions of people every year!


This past week I was blessed to be able to speak to a large local moms group, which is one of my favorite things to do. One thing that God has told me is, “I have given you a platform – don’t waste it.”  I hold onto that word and realize that I went through what I went through, so I could help YOU!

Just think, what if the struggles/troubles or season you are going through right now is for a greater purpose? What if the pain of infertility, marriage struggles, financial struggles, or parenting struggles is all meant to be for the good?  Realize that you were put on this planet at this specific time, in your specific city, and what you are going through can be used for good!

I now think back to that conversation seven years ago, and smile.  God has grown me and used me at this specific time in my life, to help each of you. And for that I am blessed!

Thank you for allowing me to use my gifting and coming here to visit me each and every day!

The Easiest Marinated Grilled Chicken

Posted at 7:00 AM on Apr 15, 2015 by I am THAT Lady: Mark

Apr 15th, 2015

Looking for a super cheap yet delicious crowd pleaser? Check out this grilled chicken and an EASY 4 ingredient marinade!

Marinated Grilled Chicken – especially if you use drumsticks and thighs has got to be one of the easiest, most delicious and CHEAPEST meals to make. Hosting a party and wondering what to cook that won’t break the bank? You just found it.

As of the writing of this post, dark meat chicken has been holding steady at around $1.19/lb. Even the cheapest ground beef is gonna run you $4-$5/lb these days. This recipe is a budget-conscious crowd pleaser. And this 4 ingredient marinade is as easy as it gets.

Italian dressing works great as a marinade, especially the zesty kind. But if that’s the only thing you use, your chicken will still end up a little bland. So this marinade starts with that as a base, but then kicks it up a little with some lemon juice, salt and pepper. Marinade in the refrigerator overnight if you can, but even just a few hours will give it some great flavor.

Now for the grilling!

Chicken on Grill

Grilling dark meat takes quite a bit longer than chicken breast, so be patient. And since there are sugars in the marinade, you need to be careful not to burn the skin too much. Indirect grilling works great here – if you have a charcoal grill, make a pile of hot coals to one side of the grill. Or if you are using gas, just heat one side of the grill on high. Your chicken goes on the other side. It’s sort of a way to “bake” the chicken using your grill.

Flip it every 5-10 minutes and move the pieces around as you do so that each piece gets equal time in the hot and cool spots of the grill. The meat should be done after about 40 minutes, but check to make sure. And then for the last 5 minutes, cook the chicken over high heat to give the skin a nice crisp.

This is awesome for freezer cooking too! Just freeze the chicken in the marinade in a freezer bag to use at a later date! The chicken will marinade as it thaws in the refrigerator.

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Looking for a super cheap yet delicious crowd pleaser? Check out this grilled chicken and an EASY 4 ingredient marinade!
Serves: 6
  • 3 - 4 lbs. chicken legs and thighs
  • 8 oz. Zesty Italian dressing (or about half a bottle)
  • 2 Tbsp lemon juice
  • 1 tsp salt
  • ½ tsp black pepper
  1. Combine dressing, lemon juice, salt and pepper in a large dish of a freezer bag.
  2. Add chicken.
  3. Marinade in the fridge for at least 6 hours (overnight is optimal)
  4. Heat one side of grill on high.
  5. Add chicken to the other side of the grill and cook for about 40 minutes (or until done), flipping often.
  6. If chicken is done, cook chicken over high heat for about 5 minutes.


7 Natural Ingredients X 7 Combinations = 7 DIY Homemade Baby Products

Posted at 1:00 PM on Apr 13, 2015 by I am THAT Lady: Beth Klongpayabal

Apr 13th, 2015

Are you wanting to make your own  homemade baby products? Here are 7 recipes that use 7 natural ingredients. You just have to try them!

Feel confident that you are taking care of your baby naturally with these DIY baby products.  Gather these 5 natural ingredients and 2 multi-purpose essential oils, and make these homemade baby products.  These DIY baby product recipes will show you how to mix and create 7 simple baby care products naturally at home.

I’ll also share with you some easy steps on how you can buy quality essential oils at wholesale prices including the two that are featured in these recipes.

Essential Oils

Natural Ingredients

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DIY Baby Laundry Detergent

(safe for cloth diapers)

  • ⅓ cup Baby Mild Pure Castile Soap – Unscented
  • 1 teaspoon Vegetable Glycerin
  • 10 drops Melaleuca Alternifolia (Tea Tree) Essential Oil
  1. Mix the soap, glycerin, and essential oil in a cup before adding to your washing machine.
  2. Wash on normal cycle.

For cloth diaper laundry:  Wash on your normal cycle adding an extra rinse if you desire.  This recipe will thoroughly clean your cloth diapers without leaving a residue.  The essential oil will kill odor causing bacteria and leave your diapers extra clean.

Cloth Diaper Sanitizer and Brightener

  • 1 cup 3% hydrogen peroxide
  1. If you’re using prefolds, you can add 1 cup of hydrogen peroxide to your wash.

This will have natural sanitizing action that will kill bacteria and also remove stains.  Your prefolds will be brighter and whiter without bleach.

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Baby Wipes Solution

  • 1 tablespoon Jojoba Oil
  • 1 teaspoon Vegetable Glycerin
  • 1 teaspoon Baby Mild Pure Castile Soap – Unscented
  • 5 drops Lavender Essential Oil
  • 1 cup water
  1. Mix all ingredients.   Store mixture in a dark or colored container.  This solution will keep for a few weeks.

You can use this directly from a spray bottle on baby’s bottom and then wipe away with a clean cloth.  I prefer to store the cloths in the solution in a recycled wipes box.  This way they’re always ready and the diaper change is faster.

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DIY Baby Wash and Baby Shampoo

  • 1 teaspoon Baby Mild Pure Castile Soap – Unscented (about a dime sized amount in your palm)
  • 1 drop Vegetable Glycerin
  • 1 drop Lavender Essential Oil
  1. In your hand, combine the soap, glycerin, and lavender essential oil and swirl with your finger to combine.  Apply as a shampoo and body wash.
  2. Make sure to rinse thoroughly from hair and body.

The soap is very gentle on the skin, but it does not have the “tear free” chemicals found in many commercial baby shampoos.  So use extra caution taking great care not to get in baby’s eyes or mouth.

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DIY Cradle Cap Treatment

  • 1 teaspoon Jojoba Oil
  • 1 drop Lavender Essential Oil

Cradle Cap is very common but can be frustrating for parents.  Use this protocol to help clear away the buildup.

  1. Combine the jojoba and lavender in the palm of your hand and mix together with your fingertip.
  2. Apply the mixture directly to the scaly/crusty area of the scalp.  Careful not to get near the baby’s face.
  3. Gently massage the oil into the affected areas for 5 minutes to encourage absorption and softening of the scales and flakes.
  4. Let this sit during baby’s nap or about 2 hours if you can manage.
  5. Using a soft bristle baby brush, make small, gentle, circular motions all over the treated area. (NEVER scrape or peel the flakes.  This can damage your baby’s skin.)
  6. Use a baby comb to gently and patiently remove the loosened flakes.  If baby gets frustrated or anxious, cease this step and move to the next step where more loose flakes will be removed.
  7. Use the Soothing Baby Wash and Shampoo to wash out the jojoba oil residue and flakes.  You might want to rinse several times.

Don’t worry if some oil is left behind.  Jojoba oil is well absorbed by the hair and skin and acts as a non-greasy conditioner and softener.

The scales won’t all come off the first time, but this gentle treatment can be repeated daily until the area is clear of buildup.

The lavender oil will soothe the baby and help keep her calm while you treat her hair and scalp.  It can also help in healing any skin irritation that might arise on baby’s delicate skin.

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DIY Baby Safe Toy Cleaner

  • 3% Hydrogen Peroxide
  1. Add peroxide to a spray bottle.  Do not dilute.  The 3% solution is strong enough to do the clean thoroughly and still be safe for children.
  2. Spray directly on toys, high chairs, play seats, and any other plastic or wood baby items.

This will kill germs and still be completely safe.  No need to rinse.  Allow to dry completely before putting in baby’s reach.

If you’re interested in getting started using quality essential oils, you can sign up here to get wholesale pricing and a personal welcome package from me.

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DIY Diaper Cream

Soothing for rashes and safe for cloth diapers

  • ½ cup Organic Virgin Coconut Oil
  • 5 drops Lavender Essential Oil
  1. Mix the ingredients and store in a tightly sealed glass jar in a cool, dark place.  This diaper cream will become liquid if stored above 76 degrees F.  You can place it in the refrigerator in between uses.
  2. Apply at every diaper change to protect baby’s delicate skin.

The coconut oil is amazingly nourishing for baby’s bottom.  It moisturizes the skin and even has antimicrobial properties which can help prevent growth of bacteria in the warm, dampness between diaper changes.

The lavender essential oil can help the baby heal from a diaper rash or minor skin irritation.  It is also soothing and aromatherapeutic, calming baby and bringing a sense of peace and wellness.

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*BONUS recipe variation*

DIY Diaper Cream (when yeast is suspected)

Moisturizing and antifungal (kills yeast, yes!).   This cream is gentle on baby and safe for cloth diapers.

  • 1/2 tablespoon Organic Virgin Coconut Oil
  • 1 drops Melaleuca Alternifolia (Tea Tree) Essential Oil
  1. Mix the ingredients.
  2. Apply liberally to the entire diaper area.

This is enough for a single use.  I like to mix up only as much as I need so as not to contaminate the storage container with any microbes.

Coconut oil and melaleuca alternifolia essential oil are both proven to be antifungal.  This will help alleviate the yeast.

You should change the baby’s diaper often if yeast is suspected so as not to give the yeast time to reproduce in a warm, dark, and moist environment.

You want the best for your sweet baby.  If you’ve read the ingredient list on your baby supplies then you might have wondered if there was a more natural approach.  These 7 ingredients X 7 combinations = 7 DIY baby products use proven gentle essential oils and natural ingredients to care for your little one naturally.

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Here are the easy steps to buy quality essential oils at wholesale prices.

 1. Click on this link and fill in your information.  Please use your laptop or desktop to sign-up, instead of your smartphone or tablet

 2. Be sure the “Wholesale Member” option is checked so that you don’t end up paying retail prices (which are 24% more than wholesale).

3. Be sure the “sponsor ID” and “enroller id” say 2599082 (This will confirm your order so I can send you your free book!)

4. If you do not feel comfortable putting in your social security number then you can get an EIN from the IRS and use that number instead (the IRS just needs to be able to connect some number with you for tax purposes – It’s super fast and easy to do!).   Young Living needs a Social Security Number or an EIN because if you make $600 or more per year selling Young Living products, you will receive a 1099 form in the mail (which is required by law).

Keep in mind that if you use an EIN, you will need to talk to your accountant about filing quarterly taxes.

Here’s the link for an EIN: https://sa1.www4.irs.gov/modiein/individual/index.jsp

Or, if you feel more comfortable, you can visit irs.gov and search for “Employer Identification Number (EIN).”

  1. Select which starter kit you want to get. My recommendation would be the Premium Starter Kit (and that’s the one that qualifies you for the free reference book that I’ll send out!)   All of the oils mentioned in this post are currently available in the Everyday Oils Essential Oils Collection which comes in your Premium Starter Kit.  You can get one of the kits that are $150, or you can get a kit for $160 with the bamboo essential oil diffuser.
  2. Step 3 is a completely OPTIONAL part of the sign-up process. If you’re going to be purchasing products monthly then it’s a great program that will give you credit back with each order and save you on shipping costs.
  3. Go through the checkout process.
  4.  After you sign up, send me (Beth) an email to vabethk@gmail.com letting me know that you signed up through me so that I will know to send you your book.  Feel free to ask any questions in the email and I will also help you find the information that you need.


Coupon Matchups are UPDATED!

Posted at 5:30 PM on Apr 11, 2015 by I am THAT Lady: Mark

Apr 11th, 2015

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It is Saturday which means all the Coupon Matchups have been updated!

Click on each of the matchups below and see the best deals at your stores!  If you don’t see your store listed, make sure that you download the Favado App, which has coupon matchups for most of the stores in the US.


Here are this weeks coupon matchups:

For free printable coupons to match with items you are looking to save money on, search my Coupon Database with over 6,000 coupons to use!


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My Honest Stitch Fix Review

Posted at 9:08 AM on Apr 09, 2015 by I am THAT Lady: Lauren

Apr 9th, 2015
I confess that I love a new pair of jeans, a nice pair of pumps, and a fresh new look!  However, I am usually the girl that finds those said items at a thrift store for $1.00 per item.  I've been seeing a lot of bloggers write about Stitch Fix la
8 Ways to Get Your House Ready to Sell Without Spending Much Money

Posted at 8:00 AM on Apr 08, 2015 by I am THAT Lady: Lauren

Apr 8th, 2015
Selling your house can be very stressful, especially if you have kids running around.  Spring seems to be the time of year people are either looking to buy a house or are trying to sell theirs. That being said, I thought it would be appropriate t
Setting up our Kids Wealth System with the kids

Posted at 1:00 PM on Apr 06, 2015 by I am THAT Lady: Lauren

Apr 6th, 2015

Last week I wrote about a New Kids Wealth program we are trying with our kids. I wanted to give you an update on how that program is going so far.

For the past three years we used a different childrens money program and we found this particular pr